Not knowing when to step aside is the mistake many Christian women make in the pre-marital phases of their relationship. They assume the role of wife without the formal appointment (marriage). Acting as a wife -spiritually – when you are not can seriously affect the move of God in your potential husband’s life.
Contradiction?
No, this is not contradicting my previous post “treat your husband like your boyfriend”. You may have a read for yourself. Trust me, I’m not. Assuming the role of wife in this post refers to praying, discerning, covering, interceding and other spiritual duties of the wife in her husband’s life. The Holy Spirit is impeded when women don’t allow the man to grow through his life experiences with God.
God wants to move in the man’s life but you are in His way.
It is not your job… yet
According to Dr. Faith Wokoma in an article published on www.marriedandyoung.com, there are 5 key roles of a wife and mother. Dr. Wokoma lists them as:
- Wives Discern
- Wives Pray
- Wives are warriors
- Wives are guardians of peace
- Wives teach
When you become a wife you are appointed by God to effectively carry out these duties. When you are girlfriends, you are not yet equipped spiritually to be an established entity in a man’s life. You must allow the man to discern his own situations, pray and build his relationship with God, develop his fighting power, guard his own peace and teach who God has sent him to teach. This is his training ground. This is how he will learn to guard your family. Let him grow.
Know when to step aside in your dating relationship
You are a woman, you are built to nurture and protect. It is natural for you to want to be fully involved in the life of the one you plan to marry. However, at this stage in the relationship, you can’t want to take care of everything spiritual in the man’s life. It is important to know when to step aside.
You must discern, pray, be warriors, be guardians of peace and teach. However, your prayers will guide you into knowing when to give your input. Your discernment will activate the warrior within you and send you to fight on his behalf. If you’re not prompted by the Holy Spirit, leave it alone.
Pray for him, love him, guide him but understand when the spiritual matter doesn’t require your input. Don’t impose on the Holy Spirit. Allow him to lay the foundations of the husband you desire. In all things, let God be your guide. Trust God to guide you into knowing when to step aside.
God Bless You
Amoy is intent on fulfilling God’s will and purpose for her life. She is a celebrity publicist, a proud Jamaican, a writer, an international speaker, a media practitioner and a published author. She loves all things luxury and is on a mission to become one of the wealthiest women from her island and in the world. 40 under 40, is that you?