Elevation requires separation.

Do you agree with that? I was given this word approximately three years ago. On September 26, 2014 to be exact. According to my journal, I was at home, in bed on a Friday and I completed the entry at 2:16 pm. Specific right? The picture below proves it. I am instructed to share, as Christians are in unhealthy bonds. This is my obedience.

Here goes:

There are human bonds that need to be broken in order to facilitate growth in your Christian walk. These bonds become bondage that hold us back both physically and spiritually. These spiritual ties are detrimental to your own growth and prosperity. And what’s shocking is that, personally being attached to someone may not be the issue. Someone may be attached to you. And this type of attachment is the most detrimental.

How do individuals form bonds?

When two individuals spend frequent, extended time together, over a period a bond is formed. If you go out with someone frequently on a specific night, you will begin to look forward to that activity. Having a conversation with someone daily slowly becomes embedded into your routine. You begin to look forward to these moments. When these moments are frequently hindered, you are disappointed. Being emotionally bonded, you begin to wonder what was done wrong on your part.

There is a thin line between a bond and bondage…

A bond becomes bondage when one person becomes more invested than the other.

Bonds from friendships AND intimate relationships can become bondage.

When one party becomes more invested than the other, the one who is not attached begins to feel smothered and restricted. The perceived restriction fuels rebellion that results in increased conflict and tension in the relationship.

Bonds, Bondage & the Christian Walk

Many of you have lived a life without Christ. You formed unhealthy And ungodly bonds whether romantic or simply casual. Some of these bonds birthed bondage.

In biology, there is a topic called “Symbiosis”. Symbiosis refers to the interaction or relationship between two living organisms. However, in symbiosis there are various types of symbiotic relationships. I want you to continue reading with your personal relationships in mind.

The symbiotic relationships are:

• Mutualism
• Commensalism
• Parasitism

Mutualism

In Mutualism, both organisms benefit from the relationship. For example, you will almost always see a small bird on a cow. The bird eats the insects (ticks) that are on the cow. So, the bird gets a good meal while the cow grazes peacefully. Some bonds will be like that; mutually beneficial.

Commensalism

In the commensalistic relationship, one organism benefits while the other receives nothing in return; neither harm nor good. Many bonds are commensalistic especially in the Christian walk. Christians sacrifice much of themselves for the greater good of others and oftentimes gain nothing physical in return.

Parasitism

In parasitic relationships, one organism – the parasite – attaches to the other and slowly drains the life out of that organism. A leech will drain the blood from anything it attaches to. Weeds in your garden will kill your grass or your plants.

The revelation…

Parasitism reflects many of the bonds Christians are in. I believe God wants me to unveil this truth to many Christians. You are in bonds where the individual is attached to you mentally, emotionally and spiritually. These bonds are bondage that are hindering your growth in God. God wants to use you but your spirit is hindered by this attachment.

I pray that in this moment you will begin to realize the parasitic relationships in your life. I pray that you will begin to bind every spirit of attachment that is present in your life.

The sad reality is that God has told you to let go of this relationship but you continue to hold on. Many times as Christians we hold on to what was. We are unable to see spiritually where God wants to take us. Christians are stuck in situations waiting for deliverance when it’s the relationship that needs to go.

What’s in the bible?

In the bible we see that when God wants to do a new thing, he takes his people away and hides them. Elevation requires separation. In order to move up you will have to move away.

In Genesis, when God wanted to use Abram, he moved him out of Haram. The Lord said in Genesis 12:1-2, “Get thee out of thy country and from the kindred and from thy father’s house, unto a land that I will shew thee: And I will make of thee a great nation, and I will bless thee, and make thy name great; and thou shalt be a blessing.

In Deuteronomy when God wanted to present Moses with the ten commandments, even for a second time, he took him away into solitude.

You get the call to separate from certain things or break certain bonds when God wants to bless. However, you must be obedient. Your disobedience is hindering the work God wants to do with and for you.

Let go. In order to elevate, you must separate.

I thank God for the word.